Everyone’s journey through the holidays is different. What matters most is finding what feels right for you, allowing yourself space to heal, and embracing whatever peace and joy you can find during this time.

Here are some thoughtful ways to spend the holidays, especially if you’re simply not feeling in the holiday spirit:

1. Prioritize Self-Care

Use this time to focus on your mental and physical well-being. Whether it’s taking a walk, reading a book, journaling, practicing mindfulness, or indulging in a relaxing hobby. Self-care can be a powerful way to recharge.

2. Set Healthy Boundaries

It’s okay to say no to events or gatherings that feel overwhelming. Give yourself permission to step back from the hustle and bustle, and create a holiday experience that suits with your emotional needs.

3. Engage in Simple Traditions

Even if you’re not in a festive mood, you can still take part in simple, meaningful traditions like watching your favorite holiday movies, cooking your favorite comfort food, listening to calming holiday music, lighting candles, writing a letter of gratitude or decorating your home in a minimalistic way. It can provide a sense of normalcy without the stress.

4. Volunteer or Give Back

Helping others can be incredibly uplifting. Volunteer at a local shelter, food bank, or community event. Giving back can help shift your focus and provide a sense of purpose during challenging times.

5. Spend Time with Compassionate People

Surround yourself with people who respect your emotional space. Whether it’s a small, quiet gathering or a one-on-one conversation, being with those who offer support can be healing.

6. Create a New Routine

You don’t have to follow traditional holiday expectations. Create new routines that bring you joy, whether it’s watching your favorite movies, trying new recipes, or spending time outdoors.

7. Focus on Gratitude

Reflecting on things you’re grateful for, no matter how small, can shift your mindset. Writing in a gratitude journal or a simple moment of reflection each day can help reshape your thoughts.

8. Limit Social Media Use

Social media can amplify feelings of isolation or comparison, especially during the holidays. Consider limiting your time on social media platforms, or curating your feed to focus on uplifting content.

9. Don't Hesitate to Reach Out for Support

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to a friend, family member, or a professional. Talking about your feelings, whether with a therapist or a trusted person, can provide relief and clarity.

10. Allow Yourself to Feel

Remember that it’s okay not to feel “happy” all the time during the holidays. Acknowledge your emotions without judgment, and give yourself grace. It’s okay to simply exist during this season and take it day by day.